Alone and Lonely - Is it actually something to be afraid of?

In my earlier childhood days, being all by yourself at a corner is something that isn't normal. It is as if you had just committed a horrible crime for sitting there without anyone accompanying you. However, as I started growing older, I began to appreciate the time spent alone. Honestly, I wouldn't care if I was being judged for being a loner because at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is that you're contented with what you're doing. I remember when I was 13-14 in secondary school, I hated being alone. Maybe it was because of the fact that many people in my school preferred to hang out in a group rather than to be alone sometimes, hmmm... I kind of regretted not taking time off to spend time with myself in the past.

When I entered college in January, I finally understood how important and crucial it was to be by yourself. In college, you're pretty much surrounded by so many friends from different courses and I must say, the new friends I made are actually so easy to communicate and connect with. (Kudos to all of you that I'm friends with :') Thank you for making college less dreadful.) Anyway, long story short, an Onigiri (Onigiri is a Japanese stuffed rice wrapped in seaweed if you weren't sure what it was hehe) and a cup of iced Milo from the vending machine were my companions when I choose to be alone on certain days. College is very hectic and it is filled with tons of studying, assignments, more studying, more assignments, EVEN MORE tests ermergersh, and the cycle repeats. So, it was understandable if one chooses to spend time alone to enjoy deep and meaningful thoughts. I'm actually quite surprised I managed to have the courage to sit alone at the foyer without having the fear of being judged. Trust me, I know people who do not even dare to sit by themselves and I totally understand that!! :)

What I'm trying to deliver in this blog post is that BEING ALONE IS NOT HORRIBLE. If you're walking at your college compound or even at public areas and you come across someone who's alone, what would you do? Now, pause for a moment and figure out what would be the first thing on your mind. Will you start judging them or will you just appreciate the courage given by that person for being alone? Being alone is actually something beautiful. I thoroughly enjoy the peaceful moments I have had. Sometimes, I would have a conversation with God, thanking Him for everything that He has provided for me up until today. Sometimes, I would take the time to reflect on the many things that had happened the previous days. Sometimes, I would think back of the misunderstandings or even arguments I had with some people, and wonder whether were those tiny misunderstandings even worth it. Sometimes, I would be a normal human being on social media, catching up on what I have missed hehe. Come on, let's admit it, we can't live without social media right? However, I try to be very careful and avoid myself from being so "hooked" onto social media as I wouldn't want to treat it as my idol. That would be so very wrong.

Thank you for your time spent on listening to my thoughts of being alone! Why not try being alone if you hadn't tried it already? I promise you it would be life changing!

Cheers! :)